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Your brother is a teenager and as such is having a hard time controlling his anger that you are "invading" his space and he has no control over it. The next time he does something like that you need to put a stop to this, by telling him that you and he are getting too old for this, if he needed to use the computer all he had to do was arrange times good for both you, and if he can't start treating you with some respect that you'll avoid him at home and he can't come visit you. Tell him who that a brother is supposed to be the one protecting his sister not the one who makes you hurt/feel bad. And finally (if nothing else is getting thru) you should tell him that he is becoming like his father and if your brother can do this to you he'll do this to a girlfriend some day. A lot of times people don't realize what they're doing is what their parents did and they swore they would never do. At least by having this conversation your treating him like an adult now, and hopefully the tide will change.
I hope these talking points work, I just tried to think what would have gotten thru to my older brother when he almost killed me a couple times (suffocation, drowning, hurt feelings, etc). We have a good relationship now, but he still pisses me off when he makes a remark. But then he always apologizes because he can't stand my not talking to him.
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