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Originally posted by Love_Spell_6
is it fair to expect women to have dinner prepared every night, although they are working the same number of hours sometimes as a man??
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I just had to comment on this...
Each couple has to come to their own arrangement as to who will do what chores. There are many more chores around the house than cooking... there's cleaning, taking out the trash, making the beds, minding the kids, mowing the lawn, shoveling snow, keeping the books, car maintenance, etc.
Things fall apart when men expect women to do all or most of those things simply because they're women. My parents are a perfect example. They both worked hard, same hours, same type of work, same commute. (They're retired now.) When they got home, my father would flop down in front of the TV and turn on the news or the game while my mother prepared dinner. After dinner, my father returned to the couch while my mother cleaned up. I helped as I could, but there was only so much I could do, especially when I was little.
I asked my dad once why he didn't at least help clean up. He said, "I work hard for a living." I was like, and Mom doesn't???
My husband and I split the chores a little more equitably. I cook most nights, and he does the dishes. It works well, since I love to cook and he's a neat freak.
Of course, if a woman (or a man, for that matter) makes the choice to be a homemaker, she is signing on to do most or all of the chores, and she should not be surprised when her family expects a home-cooked meal most nights.