I cook at our house but that means that Hubby is doing the following: helping our son with homework and the usual nightly rituals of getting a bath, getting clothes laid out for school the next day along with getting his backpack together and cleaning up after dinner. This also means that when I work 3rd shift at the agency, either we have take-out or Hubby cooks. I wish he would ask me to cook after I've been at the agency all night dealing with other folk's kids and the 5-0 and CPS.
Also Hubby cleans up house better than I ever could so I get out of his way when he gets one of his cleaning fits. All I ask is that he leave my books and stuff ALONE!! I do the laundry because I don't mind getting up at the crack of dawn to beat the senior citizens to the laundry room.
Hubby gets what he needs because he gives me what I need as well. Neither one of us expects the other to do everything all the time, that's not fair and it's detrimental to the spirit of a marriage partnership/friendship.