Hey, Cash--I'm not exactly looking for advice, but I want to know what you think, anyway.
I dated "B" for nearly a year. For some reason, I was totally and completely in love with the guy. We've been apart for over a year now. Less than two weeks after we broke up, he had a new girlfriend. Less than two months later, he was engaged. The next month, he was married. He may or may not have been cheating on me. I won't speculate either way, because I don't know for sure.
Naturally, all my friends were totally baffled at this, because they all believed he had been as much in love with me as I had been with him. We found out later that the girlfriend/fiancee/wife was pregnant, and this is the reason they got married.
"B" and I had a VERY bitter break-up, and we were at each others' throats for a long time. Last month, "B" suddenly started talking to me on MSN messenger. He apologized for all the things he'd done to me, told me that I deserved better than he'd done to me, and said he hoped we could be friends (this coming from a guy who'd once said he hated me and never wanted to speak to me ever again). I was stunned, and I acted very coldly toward him.
Since then, he's emailed me twice, and we've talked twice on MSN. I'm not sure if he's still married, because I haven't asked. He's been trying to act as if we're old friends, as if all the things that happened between us never happened; every time we talk, he asks me to forgive him and tells me how wrong he was (this is the first time in all the years I've known him that I've ever heard him admit that he was wrong). I have acted civilly towards "B," but I don't encourage him at all. He also asks about the guy I'm dating.
I've been dating "C" for almost a month. I like him a lot, and he's a lot of fun to be around. "C" is not threatened at all by "B's" sudden re-appearance in my life. "C" is better to me than anyone has ever been before.
A couple of months ago, I would've wanted nothing more than to have "B" come back to me. Now that I've found a wonderful friend in "C," I'm not so happy about "B" popping up again. I don't actually need advice, because I already know what I'm going to do (nothing--I will continue to be civil toward "B" and nothing more and continue dating "C"). What I want to know is why all of a sudden Mr. "I'm-Married-With-A-Baby-And-Hope-You-Die" "B" is coming at me, begging for forgiveness and telling me that I deserved better than he did to me and how he hopes we can be friends? (Don't worry, I won't go back to him--even though he hasn't actually asked me to--I'm just curious.)
Sorry for the book!
