As an alumnae who feels "shut out" of her collegiate and alumnae chapters, here is the advice I'll give:

1) Give us notice. I'd love to come to your Rush/Founders Day/Banquet/etc., but I need advance notice. If I don't know at MINIMUM one to two weeks ahead of time, there's no way I can make it. And my schedule is pretty light compared to most of my sisters.

2) Return my phone calls. Nothing makes a worse impression than repeatedly leaving messages offering to help, and not getting a response.

3) Keep me in touch with what's going on in the chapter. I haven't received a newsletter since I left school almost 3 years ago. (This goes along with #2... I've told the Alum chair several times, but she's never called me back!) I'd love to hear that you won Homecoming, or got a record NM class.

4) Be nice to me when you do see me. A simple hello when you see me wearing letters goes a long way.