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Originally posted by cashmoney
BTW- Have any of you ever had boyfriends that cheated on you and then you later found out that his dad did it to his wife and his gradnfather did it to his wife? Can cheating on your spouse be genetic? I'm getting worried about that. The reason being because I've cheated on many ex-GFs of mine. I'm wondering if my genetic makeup is what causes that. I don't do it anymore, but I'm still worried about it.
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I've had one boyfriend cheat on me. I definitely did not stay with him. I dumped him immediately. I just couldn't trust someone ever again after they've cheated on me. I'd always have that question in the back of my head on whether or not they're cheating with me if I chose to stay with him. Admittedly, I cheated on my HS sweetheart. I felt so bad that I broke up with him the next day. Just as I would never date a cheater, I wouldn't want someone to still date me after I've cheated.
I don't think cheating is genetic. I do think it's a learned behavior. You've watched your dad do it and you've heard about your grandfather doing this. Your dad's case happened when you were still young (yes, 15 is young) so it might be embedded in your brain that it's ok because your dad did it. The good thing is that you can change.
I think everyone has had some urge to cheat at a point in their relationship. While on a cruise last year, I met a really hot guy. I was dancing with him and he tried to kiss me. I just told myself "a 30 second kiss is not worth it to ruin a wonderful 2-year relationship". Instead, I turned away and explained to the guy I was taken.
I think that if you think of things logically while in the heat of the moment (which is hard to do but is possible), you can save yourself the heartache of cheating. Give yourself a minute to think about the relationship you're about to ruin and ask yourself if it's worth it.