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Originally posted by FAB*SpiceySpice
Ok so I feel like a loser asking for advice, but yea, I really need some so here goes.
Since my freshman year I have had a crush on this one guy, S. We've hooked up on and off for the last two years but this semester it's become like a regular thing. He doesn't want a relationship and I don't want one with HIM but I do want a relationship. However something about him to me is just really like hard to let go of and I don't know why. He is an asshole a lot of the time, but the times when he's sweet seem to make up for it. Now I know the smart thing is to say, I'm too good for him blah blah just move on but I am trying so hard and I feel like I can't b/c I want him to be in my life in at least some little way. The thought of like never kissing him ever again though scares me b/c I just can't fathom that.
So now enter my ex boyfriend, D. He and I broke up b/c of a lot of reasons but mainly b/c it was moving too fast and neither of us was ready for that at the time. Now we both are and we want to be together but he has a HUUUUUUUUUGGGGGGEEEE dillema going on right now. I want to be there for him and help him through it, but it's a seriously complicated scary situation. I'm the only person he has told outside of his fraternity and he expected me to freak out and like run away I guess, and no part of me wants to do that, I just don't know how we're going to get through this.
So what do I do? I want to be with both guys. S doesn't want a relationship but as soon as I mention anything about any other guy he becomes so jealous and possessive. And I know I'm dumb for thinking this, but I see that as his way of showing me that he cares. STUPID I know.
Ok so yea, advice...please. 
I can't believe I just typed all this out on here. Sorry guys.  
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I've been there on wanting to be with two people at once. Its hard to decide what to do. I think the reason why you want to be with your ex is because you two are still friends and still close ( to an extent). The friendship that formed while you two were dating has created a place for him in your heart. Thats why you want to be there for him, you still care about him very much. I'm the same way with an ex of mine. We still talk as good friends and she's even sent me baby pics of her older sisters son she just had. I'd break my back for that chick. Still, us being together in the future just isnt gonna happen. I think you should be there for your ex during his issue and help him through this time. But be there as his friend I wouldn't get romanticly involved if i were you. If the two of you arent dating now, you dont need to get romanticly involved with this guy while he's going through this serious stuff.
Now, about S.......
Its sounds to me like he just wants you to be his phuck buddy but doesnt want to offically label whats going on between you two because of a comitment. Look at it like this, him being like that means he can be with another girl behind your back and not feel guilty about it since you two arent dating. At the same time, you're probably his main girl and therefore doesnt want you to be messing around with other guys. Thats why he gets jealous. This guy sounds like he's a pimp, and he's making you look bad by not dating you while still hooking up with you all the time while you want some sort of a relationship. It really depends on what you want. If you want a relationship, leave S.......you're not gonna get it from him as of now. If you like him that much and want him in your life and the two of you not dating doesnt bother you...then stay with him.
Hope I helped.
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