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Originally posted by smiley21: tell him that it makes you uncomfortable. cause where you work, isnt really the time or the place. especially when you dont want it. stuff like this needs to be reported to the owner of the company. does your job have posters that talk about sexual harassment, worker's comp., and min. wage? look at the info on sexual harassment. there should be a number to call if you want to report it. for a manager, he totally lacks professionalism.
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Woah, sorry Smiley but I think you're jumping the gun a bit there.
Yes, I agree he is lacking professionalism and I agree this needs to be nipped in the bud pronto, especially since absolutuscchick is so obviously uncomfortable with it. But I think all the items you suggested are correct if he once informed his advances are welcome THEN tries to put pressure on absolutuscchick or implies or suggests her job is threatened or at risk etc. At that point it is the time to make him wish he was never born.
So far all that seems to have happened is he's acted on his own poor judgment and asked someone out whom he likes. That person happens to work with him, maybe he works long hours and wouldn't meet lots of people otherwise? I'm really not sure this should be made into a serious disciplinary issue for the guy, the owner being involved etc. Sexual harassment involves things like demanding sexual favors/dates in return for job security etc. From absolutuscchick's rundown this hasn't happened.
My suggestion is in her own words tell him she likes working with him and she's pleased they get on well
but the current situation is making her uncomfortable, she likes to keep her private and professional life separate and does not want the two of them to be involved in any way or date further.
**IF** he then tries to start implying anything untoward will happen as a result of this then THAT is the time to act with clear decisive action. All that's happened so far is he's asked her out and been on a date but she doesn't feel the same way and he apparently doesn't know that yet.
Absolutuscchick, you should not and must try not to be intimidated by adressing this situation; if anything should be implied or threatened by him then the law is on YOUR side. Chances are this can all be sorted out happily by quickly clearing the air with him. Should things develop then there is plenty (e.g smiley21's suggestions) which you can do. Good luck.