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I've had a lot of frustrations as an alumna. Of course, things are different on this side than they were on the other. You are in an awkward stage right now - not in college, not really having a life outside of college. It's difficult.
I'm not sure that I have any great advice on how to deal with things. If you have an alumnae association near you, that may be the best place to turn. If you don't have one, do you have enough Pi's nearby to start one?
Within a year or two, you aren't going to know many active girls anymore. You will be more established in your career, and won't want to hit the bars with the Deltas on a Monday night. You will have a larger circle of friends outside ADPi and no longer be up for dropping everything at 9pm to head out for ice cream or a social. You may have a SO, or even be married with a family. Your interests aren't going to be the same.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that ADPi is a part of me and always will be. But in college it was such a large part of my life - like 50% and everything else (school, family, job) were fighting for space in the other 50%. Now that I've been out for awhile, my family is 50% of my life and everything else (career, ADPi, friends) compete for the other 50%. It was hard and strange and difficult getting there. I belong to our local alumnae association and attend meetings and events. While we are "sisters" in the ADPi sense of the word, they aren't sisters like my Eta Rho sisters were. It's good, it's just different. I think there's a lot of growing up and adjustments that happen in our 20's that isn't really talked about. And you know, if you were never an ADPi, I think you would still be missing whatever group of friends you hung out with in college.
My frustrations with my chapter led to me posting a thread here and promptly getting ripped for it. I wasn't bagging on my chapter, I was just posting things that I know a lot of chapters need to work on. Of course, now I'm getting nasty emails, but that's another matter...
You are going through a transition right now. It's natural and normal and kind of hurts.
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