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Thank you everyone for your advice.
Here is what I have done, and my sort of plan of action.
I installed a "chat recorded" on the desktop and a keylogger as well. I figured that way I can at least see the frequency in which he is coming over and what he is doing.
I am going to act like nothing is different, at least until I see his history and logs. At that point I will change the garage door code, and pass word protect the computers.
And yes, James, he is coming into my house while no one is here. My cousin is not letting him in, she comes in and finds him here.
I am debating if I should tell my friend, if I do find anything out. I do believe I will be put in the middle and get the blame. She has made the choice to stay with him before, and I believe that she would not leave if she knew he was cheating again.
The only thing I am really debating, and I am sure I will take crap for this. I have not mentioned anything to my husband. He is very laid back, and under normal conditions couldn't care less if our friends were in the house while we were gone. So i don't want to tell him, have him blow it off, or tell either one of them. Don't get me wrong I will say something to my husband, just not yet.
And I have to say, the more I think about this the more the idea that he is in my house w/o my knowledge creeps me out. If I knew he was here it would not bother me. But little things are popping up in my mind. Things I have said while on the phone, when I am home alone after work, that have later been repeated to me, by him. A month ago, my brother came in town--he and I went to lunch with a friend of mine. NO ONE knew that my friend went with us, we picked her up at work--the next day I was asked how my brother and the other friend got along. I was baffled, but now I am wondering--was he here when my brother and I returned home? The computer room is in the bedroom downstairs--you could easily hid in there and no one would see you. To leave, you could go out the sliding door in the family room, if I was upstairs I would never hear the door or see anything.
I do know that my friends husband would never hurt me or anything like that. I really think he is here looking at porn, or chatting with another woman. But I am now thinking maybe he has been in the hosue when I am home, and I have no clue!!!yikes!!!
Thanks everyone!!!!
wendi
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