When you join a sorority, you will not become great friends with all of the members. It is very hard to bond with ALL of your sisters on a close basis, since often there are over 100+ members. But that does not mean that you can't try. No one expects you to find 100 new best friends simply because you share the same letters. But you DO have something in common: your sorority and what it stands for.
If you decide that you ABSOLUTELY cannot become good friends with this girl, leave it at that. Don't overexert yourself and be fake. And DON'T talk trash about her to other people. Obviously, if she was extended a bid, the majority of the initiated sisters like this girl. Just let it be and focus on other things. Whatever you do, don't be rude, mean or disrespectful--instead, just treat her as a casual acquaintance.
Although I love all of my sisters, I can honestly say that I am not great friends with every last one. I would be fooling myself if I thought I was. But I am always friendly to them and treat them as I would want to be treated. (And the same goes for the other way around---I'm sure not everyone considers me to be their close friend.) But that's okay because I do have many great friends that I have made through the sorority. Friendships take effort--on BOTH parts. I know what you mean that sometimes it seems like there is an "oddball" in a pledge class that doesn't seem to fit in with everyone else. Those things happen. But there WAS a reason she was given a bid. You should try to find out on your own what the sisters thought was so special about her.
You will be expected to bond with your pledge class. It is something you should WANT to do, not be FORCED to do.
No one can be friends with everyone. But just remember----although you might not always be friends, you will always be sisters.
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