The BAD thing no one's mentioned yet is that if he gets into child porn or something else illegal, it's WENDI that will get hung with it. It's on her computer at her address....no way to prove it wasn't her family doing it.
I personally would be pissed enough to snoop and get some evidence on him. But I don't know that I would use it unless necessary. (If they got a divorce, I would use the evidence to nail him in court if he was actually cheating...but then the friend might get upset because you didn't tell her) DEFINITELY change the garage code, locks, everything...Have all the bad stuff cleaned off the computer, install password protection, keep the password in you wallet (NEVER near the computer) and change it often. (I can't stand the thought of anyone just having free access to my house whenver they feel like it. UGH!!!!)
If you're feeling especially mean, you can spy enough to see if he's going into any porn chat rooms and "soliciting", tell the cops the delimma and see if they want to go into the same chat room and nail him. They would have to come to your house and arrest him while he's there during the day, though.....otherwise he would deny everything and point the finger at you. (Yes....PsychTau can be VERY devious when necessary!!!
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