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1- do you think that was enough notice, because I need some time to get things together for the new job, and needed some days off? I still have to tell the head manager.

Whether 2 weeks is sufficient depends on the company and the job. Your employee handbook or policy manual should tell you what is expected (and the job market suck as it is right now, screwing up a potential reference is not a good idea). My current position requires 90 days. My previous position, 30 days. If you give less than the required notice, it may affect whether or not you are paid for accumulated vacation time and whether they'll give you a good reference. Voluntarily leaving a position without notice is potentially more professionally damaging than a layoff (and yes, I've been through that too.. came back from a vacation to find out that my job had been eliminated while I was gone)

2- I found out I have about 2 days of sick time, if I don't use it I lose my sick time, and will not get paid for it, is it wrong of me to take a "sick" day before I leave.

Sick time is insurance. It is not like vacation, that you are entitled to use. It would be unethical to take it after you've put in notice unless you really are sick. Even then, you may not be paid for it. Every company I've worked for specifically stated that no benefit time (vacation/personal/ sick/ holiday) could be used after you'd put in notice. Again, check your policy manual or you could be in for an unpleasant surprise.

Is your manager being callous for the way your resignation is being handled? Perhaps but you don't need to be equally callous. IF you are part of a mass exodus (and it sounds like you are), you don't know what garbage your manager is being handed. She is the middle man and is not the best one to do an exit interview with anyway. Your HR department is better qualified to do an exit interview that will be handled professionally.

The other caution I would give you (or others in similar positions), is to figure out and practice with friends how you will handle future interviews when the subject of why you left this job comes up (and it will). Come across too bitter or angry and second interviews may be few. No one wants, or needs to hear dirty laundry. To simply say "it wasn't a good fit" and focus on what you could do for that other company would be better than saying it gave you an ulcer from too much stress.

Good luck... I hope your next job is a more positive experience