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Originally posted by krazy
WHOA WHOA WHOA Hold on here... She asked for GUYS opinions especially, I was giving her my opinion. What is with the judging comment? She asked for opinions... If the board is so open, how come I get flamed by all of you. What the heck? Why are you all so mad? What is going on? I was asking a fair question. I wanted a fair answer. Maybe she wasn't looking at it from that perspective, and it would help. My point, was that I think sleeping w/ someone is a big deal, you may not... thats fine. To me, her opening remarks made it look like she thought along the same lines as myself, (that sleeping with someone is a big deal). Everytime I try to ask a serious question, a bunch of women come in and flame me out of the thread. It is so damn stupid. I guess I will go back and talk to ILOVEKIPWINGER. At least that guy makes me laugh... Why can't you all deal with tangible questions. ANY GIRL can answer the queston for me, you two can if you would like... I never said that you can't go sleep with people until the cows come home, that is your business. Go do it. Fine. You didn't ask for opinions. Please can I get an answer to my question asked 5 posts above this one? I am not judging her AT ALL. NEVER DID. Gosh.
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As a female, I agree with you.
I may have misunderstood the original question, as well, but I thought bgsugirlie was saying that she wasn't going to sleep with someone again unless the situation was right, romantic, etc. Now, call me crazy, but I don't think there's much romance when it comes to 2 people just having sex for the hell of it. And I'd be a little freaked out if some guy I wasn't pretty seriously involved with or had serious feelings for lit candles, had rose petals, etc. So I think it was a fair assumption that she was saying she wasn't going to sleep with someone until it was more serious. That may be the wrong assumption, but people made it.
Some guys will come up with that scenario on their own - very few guys, but nonetheless, some will. If you want to wait for that type of scenario, then I would guess that you should wait till it's a fairly stable, somewhat serious connection you have. And if it's very important to you, then you shouldn't settle for less. Do I think it's cute or psycho to do it yourself? Well, I think that it would be romantic if you were in a committed relationship and (like someone else said) do the whole romance/seduction scene yourself. It would be kind of odd to go get water for someone and come back and have rose petals on your bed, especially if you aren't in a relationship. (I wasn't sure what type of relationship you two have)