[lostnfound117]

this was a very interesting article to read. sigh....i'm a woman who has been continually hurt over and over by men.i have alot of love to give, and i guess i tend to fall hard for the man i'm with. yet, i always either end up with liars or losers. it is a vicious cycle.
lately, i've convinced myself to give up on love, feeling quite cynical and thinking that all of teh good black men, without issues, are taken.
i like this article because it gives me hope and sheds some much needed light on a few issues i was thinking about.

the article stated,
"Choose a man you can love, and work with him. Or commit to understanding more deeply the one you're with. But before any man becomes your lover, make him your friend and, most important, see him as your brother. Don't let little things irritate you. When there's conflict, soften your heart, see his innocence - or ignorance - and don't have an attitude. Speak kindly. Be reverent. Practice peace. Be a role model for the behavior you want him to adopt. As our beloved Dr. Betty Shabazz said she did with Malcolm, find the good and praise it"

i suppose that if i ever have another relationship, i will adhere to this! (thanks for sharing ct4)