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Originally posted by CrimsonTide4
You DON'T HAVE TO verbally say it, but I just umm was shocked that folks who are long term friends have never said it and perceive it as "gay."
LOL @ long day on GC.
TonyB, let me ask you this, when you read Susan Taylor's words did you feel like she was speaking a truth for you in some way. Did you feel like she was vocalizing for you and other men? Namean? Did it make you feel good to know that this woman and other women are here for you? Trying to understand you better?
I can see your point with the whole internalizing your problems, troubles of the world, etc. but it is unhealthy. I want my brothas to live, even you TonyB. 
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Just because we don't say it, doesn't mean we don't show it. It's like the man who doesn't tell his wife he loves her, but he goes and washes her car every week. Granted, he SHOULD be able to tell the woman of his life what she means to him, but I think sometimes we just miss each other's signals.
We (men) operate at a deficit. Yall have many more emotional levels in terms of dealing with things. Generally, for us it's either on/off, right/ wrong, we boys/we not boys. Because (generally) we're at a verbal disadvantage with women, we lose more arguments-- thus we shut down and don't talk.
Taylor's words had truth in a general sense, but I don't see myself in that category of men she spoke of. I can articulate my POV; I'm in touch with my feelings and can share and receive what I need.
Am I about to go "Kleenex" and start hugging on dudes? Not in this lifetime. But her colums does offer a "port in the storm" for those brothers who are in that mental/emotional mindset. It is thinking we need to do.