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Originally posted by CrimsonTide4
Okay here's my thinking:
...Men have been conditioned to have a rough exterior, to not show their pain, etc. etc. But this is so wrong. Think of how many men, ESPECIALLY BLACK MEN, die early. . . A lot of it (my hypothesis) is due to the lack of support systems/emotional outlets that could lessen their daily tensions.
Question for the men: How many of you tell your friends that you love them? Meaning that male friend who has been down for you since Heck was a pup that you love him. Too many men do not communicate that feeling VERBALLY. . .
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These are just my thoughts.
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CT4,
I'll grant you that internalizing isn't the healthiest mechanism, but I disagree that it's wrong--it's just our way. I had to learn that (and this makes NO sense to me) that sometimes women, if they have a problem just want to be heard, to talk it out. We're like problem...solution....next issue. period.
"How many of you (men) tell your friends that you love them?"
WTF?? But I see the point you're making. We're just different. Case in point with my dad, we're close but in a man-to-man way. When I divorced, my dad called me and asked if I "needed any money?" Of course I knew, and he knew that I had my own $; I've never needed $ from him. He was saying, in his way, I love you, keep ya head up and handle your biz --- but his statement as delivered to me was clearly understood, just in a man way.
Don't want to leave this w/out acknowledging your point, but you gotta see we're taught to handle biz, be the defender, protector of the family/house, etc... and behind closed doors we should be able to show some vul, vul, (even tough to write
) vulnerability, but's that takes time and support from the woman in your life.
My question back to you: why do we have to communiate love for our bruhs (black men in general), verbally? isn't it more important to just show it however you show it??
...any bruhs out there, frat, D9, whatever, feel free to help me here. I feel it's gon be a long day on GC for the kid
