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Originally posted by breathesgelatin
Because it's a system that verges on being a slave trade.
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Yes and no. My understanding is that some segments of women are esentially forced to participate by their family, a pimp-type or whatever. Others freely elect to participate because they want to get out of their country. The latter cannot be likened to a slave trade.
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Poor women from other countries come here with no skills, no English, and expecting some rich sexy guy--who is probably not all that if he's getting a mail-order bride.
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This is not entirely true. I watched a documentary where Russian women angrily defended themselves saying that they were
NOT poor, unskilled and uneducated. They said that they participated because there was a shortage of men in some sections of Russia. Their culture heavily leans on marriage and family and they didn't want to grow old and haggard waiting for a husband. Plus, given the economic climate, they make no effort to hide the fact that they want a better life and opportunity in America. Some stated that they believed that American men treat them better then Russian men. The women in this documentary were from a
woman-run agency and they all spoke English. The participants were actually quite skilled such as teachers, lawyers etc. They just couldn't stand living in Russia anymore and wanted to make their lives elsewhere.
I'm not saying that mail-ordering a wife is ok. I am simply sharing that there are more facets to this than just "it's on the verge of a slave trade".
That said, I do know that there are tons of reports of men treating their mail-order wives horribly thinking "Well, I can; I paid for her." That behaviour is clearly very wrong. Nonetheless, it doesn't necessarily mean that the woman was entered into the contract against her will.
.....Kelly
