does the writer seem a little, well, bitter? How can a person say of all these people are like this and all of those other people are like that? Along the lines of what Ideal08 was saying but broadening it: I know plenty of people who are "hoodrats" in some areas and "real women" in others. Black women need to stick together and help each other, not point fingers and call each other names.
I agree with what AKA2D91 said, though: A man will have to compromise in order to have a (any color) woman who is faithful and will stick by him through "the storm." It seems that a lot of black men duck out of the relationship when they feel they're being cuckholded. They don't understand partnership because many have never seen it modeled. They feel like they're being "controlled" when, in fact, women (in all cultures) have historically always made most household decisions. It's the way of family life. What is the big deal?
No matter how competent we are, though, WE NEED THEM. Their power in the relationship is innate. Women and men need each other. No matter whether they make household decisions or not, they are not dispensible.
But, compromise with a black woman is the LAST thing some Black men want to do. Many would much rather compromise with a white woman; somehow they feel like they can keep their manhood while still working as a team when they're paired up with a white woman (or Asian, or Indian, or anything but Black). I don't understand it. People say we come off too strong, too loud, etc., but that's all a bunch of whooey. I know far too many "other" women who come off much stronger (I've seen plenty of Asian women check their husbands with an audience and white women shoot their husbands that "I'll kill you when we get to the car" look - also with an audience) and most of the time their men don't seem to have a problem with it. They seem to work with the one they're with and understand that their importance lies in being who they are - not in having control of the minutia.
OK, off my soapbox. I think I'm changing the thread to "why don't many black men want to just work with us" and I'm sure that's been discussed elsewhere.
(I edited the message to make sure I wasn't applying a stereotype to the entire black male population, thanks Soror)