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Originally posted by Special1920
Only if children are involved do I think you need to stay in touch.
I was married 10 years, but no kids, so the communication was cut off, although I could have kept it up.
I dealt with an ex still hanging around my ex husbands family. She made it very uncomfortable for us and his family made it no better. It was messy. They felt we couldn't pick their friends and we felt betrayed. I speak to ex's on the rare ocassion we see each other, but not friends. Especially if you are married, it's not cool.
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Dang, we must be cousins or something b/c my fiance and I are going through a very similar situation. Here's the run-down:
1. My fiance and I are together.
2. Fiance's ex is still cool with the family, particularly one of his oldest sisters.
3. At one point, ex wanted to rekindle with fiance.
4. Whenever there is a family function, sister invites ex ("She's my friend", the sister would tell my fiance), so fiance doesn't come around, for obvious reasons.
5. Future MIL is a minister and has an open-door policy in her house, meaning she'll let just about anyone come in.
6. Fiance feels that his family is not trying to give me a chance or to make me feel comfortable around them (except for a few who have taken a liking to me).
It used to upset me in the beginning, but as time passes, we (my fiance and I) just don't give a rat's behind anymore. He's at the point whereas he's rather hang around my family (who absolutely loves him
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The only ex that I speak to on a regular basis is my ex-fiance, who happens to be Lil FeeFee's father. We have a pretty good working relationship with one another. Some of his family members still give me open invitations to come and see them, but for the most part, I pass. The only time I would press to see them would be for something like a funeral, b/c they are still part of my daughter's family.