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Originally posted by AGDee
Agreed... the hard part is, BOTH of you have to share that committment. When only one is making the marriage a priority, then it gets pretty hopeless!
I have been thinking about this topic a lot and I don't think there is any one thing you can do before marriage to make sure that it is successful. There are a lot of things you should do to make sure that you are ready to make the committment. There is a lot of soul searching you should do to decide whether this is someone you CAN spend the rest of your life with... on an intellectual level, aside from the giddy "in love" feelings. But, who can explain why some couples who get married after knowing each other for 3 weeks have a marriage that lasts forever and others who have known each other 2 or 3 years don't. It does boil down to how committed each party is, but you can't know how committed your partner will stay over time. You can only control what you do.
By the way, divorce isn't the only reason that a woman should make sure that she can make it on her own. Injuries, illnesses or even death can happen to anybody. Everybody should feel comfortable living on their own, managing their money and have knowledge of what it takes.
Dee
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Yes I agree here, and to reiterate what someone else said abotu credit.......it's very important for both sides to have good credit going in. Because for example if the Guy has bad credit and gets married, then that bad credit will then become her bad credit (if everything is jointly done) regardless of her credit status before hand.