[ThetaPrincess24]

Originally posted by sugar and spice
A physical affair is where you're physically involved with another man. An emotional affair is where you're emotionally involved with another man (i.e., you may be in love but not having sex or doing anything sexual, but the behavior is still affair-esque and causes problems in your marriage). In a lot of ways I think the idea of an "emotional affair" is kind of ridiculous because it's assuming that a straight woman and a straight man cannot have a significant relationship unless it's based on lust in some way. For example, my best friend is a guy, and if I described our relationship to a newspaper columnist she'd probably accuse me of "emotionally cheating" on my boyfriend -- but he's my best friend, and our behavior is nothing out of the ordinary for best friends. Nobody assumes that if a girl has a close relationship with a female, she is having a "lesbian emotional affair."

I think the problem here is not the "emotional affair." It's the fact that she would willingly turn it into a physical affair if he was willing to reciprocate. If it had strictly been about her friendship with this man, she would have never resorted to sneaking around -- she would have just brought him over to her house to hang out with her and her husband in the first place. But the sneaking around is indicative of the fact that she wants to keep him away from her husband as much as possible, maybe so that the two men won't form a friendship which will hamper the possibility of an affair.

I agree!