|
In general, I think it all depends on the person what they "should" do before getting married. Some people need to spend their early 20s partying like a rock star before settling down, others don't.
I do think its a good idea to finish school and work for some time before getting married (ha ha, I should talk). It's going to be tough living on one income for that last year I'm in school and taking the bar. We just didn't want to wait another year to be married.
One thing that couples should do before marrying is discuss your financial situation and expectations of each other. Find out if your SO is a spender or a saver, or something in between. Know how much debt they have. Let them know how much you have. Money is a scary, tense subject. Know BEFORE the wedding, not after.
FI and I went to pre-cana last Sunday. It was a good program for people who are thinking of getting married. We were bored because we've been dating for 6 years and have discussed all the relevant things way before discussing marriage. But the questions the workbook had in it were really good. I think that it would be a really good idea for ALL couples to do something like that - it dealt with conflict styles, money matters, family and upbringing and how it affects you...the program was only about .01% catholic content. It was mostly just good sense abour relationships
|