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Originally posted by Rudey
Sorry but you're wrong. We do not have stoning in our culture. We don't rape women and consider it acceptable; it's large believed to be a horrible crime.
I've lived for 6 years in one of the most fundamentalist islamic countries in the world. Trust me when I say there is absolutely no comparison you can make that Christians in America do the same things.
-Rudey
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Nowhere did I compare what Christians do to what Muslims do. Just saying that if you take the worst of each culture you get a pretty skewed version of what that religion is like. Do I think there are aspects of Christianity that are screwed up? Sure. Do I think that the same is true of Islam? Of course.
Until you have lived as a female in America, I don't think you can understand the rape culture here. Yeah, rape is considered a crime, but to what extent? I have four friends that were raped, and multiple other friends who had near misses. Not a single one reported it, not even to go to the hospital and get checked out. Not one tried to go after their rapists because they knew that they would have to deal with the backlash. And that's out here in hippie suburbia. Using the Kobe case as an example (although I haven't decided whether or not she's innocent, for the sake of the example it doesn't really matter), your sexual history and emotional problems are dragged through the mud, and you are painted as a slut and/or a psycho. If you are a woman with a history of taking antidepressants, attempting suicide, or being in therapy, you might as well throw away the case right now. Ditto for if you were drinking, ever had a reputation for being "promiscuous" or had flirted with your rapist at some point during the night. Nobody I know would be able to deal with that after getting raped. Yes, we do treat rape as a crime -- generally -- in cases where it springs up. But way too often, people try to pretend it didn't happen because they can't deal with the fallout. There are far, far many more rapists in this country that are allowed to walk free than there are ones that are convicted. And sh*t like that described in this article happens in America far more often than most people would like to admit. Like krazy said, you could probably find a similar article in the LA Times pretty easily.
I think a lot of guys don't understand rape culture because they're ignorant of it. Almost none of my guy friends know about their female friends being raped or assaulted. As it is, well over 75 percent of my female friends -- that I know of -- have been a victim of some kind of sexual assault (I'm talking about serious assault, not "some guy grabbed my boobs in a bar) in their life, and not a single one has attempted to press charges. Those stats about 1 in 3 women being sexually assaulted in her lifetime are not made up, and in reality that is only the reported number -- from what I can tell, the actually statistics are much, much higher. I wouldn't say that that means we're doing a great job with rape over here either.
Dude, the way my posts have been today I'll soon be competing with decadence.