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Originally posted by AlphaGam1019
don't do it.
wait for marriage or if you're really pushing it, engagement with a wedding date 
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That's how I feel, too. But I'm only 22. Maybe I'd feel differently if I were older (like late 20s).
I think it would be a mistake at a young age (early 20s) unless you had very clear intentions of getting married in the near future- i.e. engaged with a date set.
I don't think it's smart for a woman to move in and 'play the wife' if the guy hasn't stated any clear intentions of marrying her. It seems like too sweet a deal for the guy otherwise.
What I mean is, there are things I would expect to do for a guy I was living with/married to... such as doing some of his laundry, some of his grocery shopping and errands, picking up around the house, some of the cooking and dishes, etc.... that I would probably NOT normally do for someone I was dating but not living with. I don't think I'd want to do all that stuff for someone on a daily basis-- wifely stuff-- unless we were serious enough, and he were committed enough, that we were planning on marriage.
I feel like you can learn a LOT about compatability without formally living together before marriage, assuming you're sleeping together and spending the night at each other's places a good amount of the time.... or at least you know enough about that person's habits/cleanliness/etc to know if there are any major 'deal breakers.' I guess you wouldn't be sharing the bills, but it seems like you'd know how the person was with money (spender vs. saver, huge loans/debt or not...) if you had been dating for a long time, anyway.
And I feel like my parents would hate me shacking up with someone, even if I were 30 and engaged.