[honeychile]

There is absolutely no excuse for what this fraternity did, barring the death of a brother! Most certainly, an official apology is called for - and if not received within a certain amount of days, I would get your Greek Advisor involved.

Remember to be gracious in accepting their apology, however. So gracious that you send them a gift - such as an etiquette book! Not one of these brothers has enough class to merit a job in the business world, IMHO.

As for the reputation, I have always cherished what several fraternities said about us: "You date a ____ or a _____, but you marry an ADPi!" Keep your chins and standards up!!