Greetings to all my gorgeous and beautiful sorors, and hello to all my noble and seriously striving sisterfriends. It's been a while since I've posted. So much has happened in my life these past few months, but later for that. I've spent hours reading all four pages of this particular topic, and instead of wasting time giving a formal greeting (with hopes of a proper "welcome back" from everybody), I simply HAD to finally comment.
I'm really surprised at what I'm reading in the posts from many sisterfriends. I'm a little disturbed when I read here that many have asked advice from this member or that member of MY sorority through GreekChat.
I first gained interest in Alpha Kappa Alpha back in 1996. While the internet was accessible to me, I don't recall one single person from this site or any other one actually HELPING me gain membership into this illustrious Sorority. For starters, I dared not use the internet as my resource for obtaining membership into Alpha Kappa Alpha. It was just unheard of. Though I enjoyed hanging out at some Alpha Kappa Alpha sites that catered to establishing friendships between members and non-members alike, I always managed to keep my questions, comments, statements, and whatever else as UN-Alpha Kappa Alpha as I possibly could. I think the closest I ever came to asking any questions about Alpha Kappa Alpha as a non-member was when I asked for opinions from members of the Sorority regarding a particular issue regarding racism. I never got slammed for asking the wrong questions, because I simply avoided that area altogether. Whatever questions I had about the Sorority at all were held deep within me until I developed a friendship with someone here, close to home, withIN the CHAPTER of the Sorority whom I felt comfortable confiding in. Neither would I let my interests be known to them until we had an established friendship beyond a shadow of a doubt (... and mind you, I kept a very small number of memberfriends at the time). I think the only time I've gotten close to being slammed by a member was AFTER I became a member myself, because I was so overzealous I had to be put in check. (That actually happened right here on this board.
) Was I offended? Of course not!! I took it in love, and accepted it as an ACT of love.
Sisterfriends, you gotta understand that the boards are cool places to hang out, but you can only aspire for the chapter in your particular area. Members of THAT chapter are the ones you should be establishing connections with. If you cannot get close enough to one of them to ask questions DISCRETELY and with HUMILITY, what good would it do you to come on a public forum and ask help from people you can't even SEE? Sorors on this board come from all OVER the place!! There's no GENERAL chapter for us to help you gain membership into. So, your focus should be in observing and supporting the chapter that you actually have access to, whether it be undergraduate or graduate.
Remember, it's not only about discretion, ... but also a matter of taste. Sisterfriends, I respect each and every one of you because I used to BE you. I know the zeal of TRYING to become a member, just as I know the zeal of BECOMING a member. But, please, use some tact, ... use some common sense, ... use your own God-given wisdom to know that Alpha Kappa Alpha is not going to be GIVEN to anyone. I can understand the fear of approaching a member face to face, ... but wouldn't you be glad that my soror can respect you for doing THAT, as opposed to hiding behind a message board anonymously?
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No weapon formed against me shall prosper, for I am a child of the Most High God, Who sits upon the Throne of Grace, and rules all Heaven and Earth.