You know, I have thought about this a lot lately, and I might change my mind, but for now, this is where I stand.
You know the phrase, one bad apple will spoil the whole bunch? That's how I feel this forum is. I'm personally tired of how people can come up in her and speak in a patronizing tone, regardless if they are interests or not, and then expect us to be so goody goody and nice. I'll tell you what. That is unrealistic. PERIOD. People talk about respect and humility and all that, but it is rarely seen, and I do give kudos to those that do use it. However, I would be one to say that we should stick to friendly conversations that have NOTHING to do with Alpha Kappa Alpha. PERIOD. That way, there is no chance of anyone's tone being misconstrued. There is no chance of anyone asking questions that are inappropriate and getting a "rude" response. It just absolutely amazes me how many people (not just in our forum, either) have so many complaints about how rude some of the Greeks can be, but that does not stop them from coming up in here posting. AMAZING.
In answer to the question at hand, I think that our serious sisterfriends do want our help. However, if it was up to me, they wouldn't get it, not until the time was right, and not on GC. And before anyone gets offended or thinks I'm being rude or mean, understand something. We as members of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. are not obligated to do or say anything to assist anyone who is not already a soror, contrary to popular belief [this does not include community service, but helping people gain membership does not fall under that category, I know how folks like to get picky
]. Actually, it's probably better that we don't.
My suggestion: Form relationships based on friendly conversations that do not pertain to Alpha Kappa Alpha. We are human, and we don't think that we are untouchable. I have formed some pretty good friendships with a couple of SF's from this forum, whom I would gladly help if they needed it. But randoms, nuh-uh. Someone helped me into AKAland, and I will never forget that, and will be forever indebted to her. But she helped me when the time was right.
I guess that's all for now.
