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Originally posted by aephi alum
There's a lot of pressure for people - especially women - to remain virgins. It's a precious gift, once you give it up you can never recover it, yada yada yada.
I have no problem with virgins - except the ones that are in-your-face about it - you know, "I'm a virgin, I'm never going to have sex until I'm married, therefore I'm going to heaven. You had premarital sex? Then you're damned to hell."
I've always felt that, if you have sex with someone, you should have some sort of emotional and spiritual connection with them first... not just for your first-ever sexual encounter, but for every single one. Sometimes being a virgin just means you haven't met someone yet with whom you feel that connection.
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Excellent post. I agree about the pressure, but I think there is pressure on both sides. I've seen girls made fun of because of their desire to remain a virgin until they found the connection you speak of. I know a few people into the church abstinence thing and none of them have ever told me I'm going to hell because I'm not a virgin. I think those groups may be good for some people, I don’t know. As far as the guys who have posted with negative remarks about virgin girls on this thread, I'll bet most of them wouldn't turn down the chance to be someone's first. Unless of course, they themselves really have no experience and would be afraid they might destroy their own image. Everyone has choices to make. I made mine and am comfortable with it.