much respect...
the reality is that this goes both ways. men always like to ask the question..."why do women like thugs?" and women can counter with..."why do men like chickenheads?"
the answers come out:
a woman likes a thug because:
-he can take care of/protect her
-he's real
-he's good in bed
-he has backbone
-he's "all man" *this one is debatable*
etc.
a man likes a chickenhead because:
-he can take care of/protect her
-she's real
-she's good in bed
-she has a way of massaging his ego
-she's "all woman" and doesn't want to step onto a "mans territory"
etc.
both are symbols of what i believe men and women lack in this society. many women eternally looking for the daddy figure go in search of someone to take care of them. and protect them. and no sistas i'm not talking financially but i'm talking about when you are standing in line at the movie theater and the brotha has his arm around your waist...you feel more protected when he looks like the rock than when he looks like martin.
consquently many men are looking for their moms. that is not calling your moms a chickenhead...but while moms was strong she was also the one who spoiled the ish outta you. so you want a woman who can spend as much time with you as you want her too...will show up to the door when you get home from work in a teddy and still have dinner on the table. that kinda ish.
the realities/dynamics of abusive relationships are larger than just..."yo, i told her to leave that ni**a alone but she didn't listen...and got her ass beat fo it!" most women do not deserve or want their asses beat but there is an emotional/psychological/sociological/sexual aspect to abuse that literally makes the person feel trapped. some can escape quickly others can not.
instead of blaming the "victim" of abuse...lets try figuring out a way to stop it so that the woman does not enter it again.
btw...abuse happens in all relationships. str8 and gay. men can be abused just as quickly as women. but nobody...deserves to get hit/mentally abused/sexually abused etc. if its that bad...and you don't think you can control yourself from striking out then you need to leave.
enough of my ranting.
peace
*sorry so long*
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