My dad passed away 13 years ago. About 3 years after he passed away, my mom started dating a guy who was friends with my uncles.
I gave this new guy a hard time. I purposely didn't give my mom his messages when he left them, I'd be bitchy and snippy everytime I talked to him, I was just plain rude and disrespectful.
About two years after they started dating, he moved in with us. But by that time I already met his daughters (he was also previously married), and I found out that they never really liked my mom either.
I call him "uncle", only because it's not customary here to address him by his first name. Uncle and I aren't close, but ten years later, they're still together. I don't know if they have plans to marry each other, but I know that they're comfortable with how things are now and they're still living their lives one day at a time.
While I don't know how it feels like to have a parent remarry, your parent's happiness will one day be your main focus. It's okay to be scared, but don't hide your feelings from your mom. Let your mom know how you feel in a way that she knows you're not trying to control her life.
And most importantly, remind yourself that no matter who your mom's with, she'll love you no matter what...because no man should ever come between a mother's love for her child!
Good luck!
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