Lawd,
I feel like your scenario speaks to my current relationship to the fullest, with some variations. To answer the question, yes I would help my mate because my love for him would allow me to do so.
As for how would I handle being in a "compliant and complacent" realtionship, I HAVE handled it by removing the exclusive aspects of our relationship and start dating other people. This has worked well for me, but not well for him. But like I always say, you will do what you have to do to get "you". Feel me? He still gets his props (time, energy, my ear, and my heart), but I don't corner it all off for him anymore. I can simply get the things I missing from other folks. May sound crazy, but it works for me.
As for staying put and keeping what you have, there are advantages to that. But when the inner voice is CONSTANTLY telling you that you can experience more, do more, feel more... then staying with what you have can be unhealthy. You will never be happy and honestly, neither will your mate.
As always IMHO
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