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I had that sort of relationship with a boyfriend in high school. It affected my friendship with my best friend and we sorta stopped haning out until she made contact with me 6 months later!
Then she started dating a guy, who she is now engaged to...and ironically she has done for the four years now the same thing I did in high school. She controls her fiancee's time, she only calls me when he is busy, and she stopped doing the things she loved to hang with him 24/7. Now, don't get me wrong, he's a nice guy. But he just enlisted in the air force and isn't living anywhere close to here right now. She's planning the wedding but funny...we haven't spoken really in two months, and haven't actually HUNG OUT since January. She quit school so close to graduation because she wouldn't be done before they marry next summer. And she can't imagine being newly-weds seperated for 4 months.
I just see her as having lost her identity and living in a fantasy world now. I think she's never grown up in her own way, and gotten to know what it is she really wants. And honestly they have such issues that if it weren't for the fact that they spend 24/7 together they would have broken up a long time ago (and in my opinion probably should have).
Sorry to have ranted, but I think throwing yourself into a relationship is one thing...but to lose all ties is another (and not a good thing).
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