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Originally posted by AOII_LB93
One of my married coworkers said it best when he said, "Friends don't let friends get promise rings. Get engaged or don't do it at all. Promise rings are ridiculous." (His words, but I agree.)
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CTFU...sooo true! I always associated promise rings with my jailbait HS classmates who got these diamond chip rings from Wal-Mart from their boyfriends in high school. Most of them got married, to be sure, but they also ended up divorced within a year or two.
Our claddaghs are more of a cultural statement--the boy is Irish, and wearing them (and learning all about them) was a huge introduction to me into something he values greatly--so it's much more significant than meets the eye. For a GDI who is heavily into Irish culture, it's sorta like being lavaliered.
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A promise ring would be just another piece of jewelry to wear, unless you are truly committed to someone (and in my opinion that is a bad idea for anyone under the age of 25) what is the point of being anything other than married/committed/engaged?
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See, I've always believed it's very hard to put an arbitrary age on when someone is ready for a larger commitment. That age might be good for a girl just getting out of college, who has always been dependent on her parents and needs to be a single career gal for a minute--but it's not so much for someone who has been on her own since 18, working and taking care of herself without anyone's help.
I do agree, however, that you have all the time in the world for rings and things. I remember reading one post where one girl was saying that she felt left out because all of her friends were engaged, and she wanted to be engaged, too--and this was right out of college!
I only know one couple who was engaged at graduation, and they had been high school sweethearts. Most couples, as "joined at the hip" as they were, broke up within weeks after graduation. You experience so much in those last two years of college--when I started my junior year, I had no idea where I wanted to spend my spring semester abroad, to say nothing of spending the rest of my life with someone.
You are young and have so much time. Enjoy college for what it is. Spend a semester abroad. Take an internship in something you never thought you'd do. Become involved in campus life. If he's worthy, he will be there with you when all is said and done.