Just take her. I'm with everyone else--you might be surprised to find that you like her if you give her a chance. Maybe she's like my old roommate's little...in the words of our NM Educator, "she just needs a little love." And the whole Big/Little thing isn't the be-all, end-all of your sorority experience. I know that in a perfect world we'd all love our Bigs and Littles and they'd be our bridesmaids at our wedding and they'd be the one you'd call first when you needed to talk or whatever, but I think that idea sort of sets people up for a reality check. I really like my Big, but we don't and never did spend much time together. My Little and I aren't close at all...in fact, there ain't nothing between the two of us that jives, as sad as it is.
What matters is that you do have that kind of bond with
some people in your chapter. There's a girl who lived across the hall from me last semester, and I swear she should've been my Little if there was any justice in the world--we're so much alike and we get along so well. My point is, even though you're not close now, you might realize she isn't that bad later on. Even if you don't, you will still have tons of other sisters that you love.
And about the "twin" thing...there were girls in my chapter (especially the founding members) who had multiple Littles, and it often caused a little bit of weirdness because some Littles would naturally be favored over the others. At least, in my case that was true...my Big has three (!) Littles, but I was her first one and she pampered me like no other! The second one she took kinda got the shaft, and then the third one had the same experience I did. Having more than one Little can sometimes be a strain on a Big, simply because it's so much harder to scrape together time, money, etc. to go around. If you can prevent that from happening, I would say do it. Bonne chance!
