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I think that you are looking for problems before there are any. First, you don't know that she will be your big sister. Second, you don't know what kind of a big sister she will be. Third, as part of the pledging process you will have to learn how to get along with all types of personalities in the sorority so consider this a learning lesson.
I don't really understand why you are going into pledging looking for problems. If you have already decided that you don't like T and don't want her as a big, she will probably be your big, and you will have a bad experience. If you decide that you will have an open mind about the entire pledging experience, you will have fun and make some great friends. Also, keep in mind that if you tell the sisters that you have a problem with T, they will probably make her your big sister so you can resolve your problems.
I saw a similar situation. A pledge wanted a certain sister as her big sister. The pledge decided that she didn't want another sister to be her big so she started complaining about her. The president told her that she didn't have to continue pledging if she didn't like how the sorority was run. She stopped her behavior and changed her attitude immediately. Once she stopped complaining, she began to enjoy her experience. The sister she complained about became her big sister, and they wound up being extremely close.
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