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>She made it clear she didn't research her options. Going to any GLO's >website would've cleared up any confusion about hazing
No, it would not have. It would have cleared up that the national organization forbids hazing and that the university has a "zero tolerance" policy regarding it, etc. Would it confirm that she won't get hazed at a given chapter of that sorority? Unfortunately, no...not in any national organization.
>She's asking for ritual information on a public website. I, for one, find this insulting.
She's a PNM, and she may not know what you consider appropriate to ask about. She may assume that members will simply say whatever they are allowed to say and hold back whatever is private -- which is the same assumption I make. Why jump to the conclusion that she wants to know privileged information? Couldn't the answer to her question be, "Expect a warm welcome, a busy schedule, and a beautiful ceremony at the end"?
>She's being flippant about something I, for one, take very seriously.
To me, a flippant tone is not obvious from her post. It strikes me as an anxious tone, with a nervous laugh. Unless it is crystal clear that someone is deliberately trying to offend, I prefer to give them the benefit of the doubt and inquire a little more. Even if it then turns out that she is being flippant, maybe she could be encouraged to take things more seriously via a gentle explanation of how much sisterhood can mean.
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