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Originally posted by stargirl725
This is true, but it can still be very, very messy. Chapter X won't know what invites this PNM is getting, and won't know whether she keeps coming back because she wants to, or because she has to. If a chapter believes the former and they're wrong, then they could be very hurt in the end.
Case in point: my rush freshman year. There was a house on my campus that wasn't very popular, and several PNM's would act DELIBERATELY impolite at that house in an attempt to get cut by them. I thought that was totally not classy, and I was always very friendly and polite at this house, even though it was probably my last choice. Well, I never was in a position to cut them, and I went to pref. Needless to say, there were some pissed off people at that house when I ended up somewhere else -- they thought i was very interested in joining.
Personally, I think that PNM's should be required to go to all their invites -- up until Pref. If pref night comes around and a PNM really isn't interested in a house, they should be allowed to cut it regardless of how many invites they have. It would save both sides a lot of stress and disappointment.
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I agree with this. It's one thing to require a PNM to attend parties up UNTIL prefs. It's evil to make a woman attend prefs that she's not interested in. In my thread on forced prefs, I spoke about several cases I knew of in which Panhellenic had made rushees go to prefs they didn't want to.
In every case, the PNM was made to go to the pref of the so-called "weakest" sorority on campus. In every case, that sorority was devastated on Bid Day because they'd had a great number of women at prefs and then very few NMs. Of course, the sorority had no clue that their women at prefs were there by coercion.
I can not imagine the horrible feeling of having dozens of girls at prefs and then maybe 2 girls running up to you on Bid Day.