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Similar thing happened at my office last year, except the person was a co-worker not my boss. She met this guy in a bar and with in about 3 weeks he had moved in with her and he was driving her to work in her car. Soon, she was calling it at 9:30 (she was supposed to be there at 7:30) saying her power went off and she just got up, only to show up at noon or not show up at all. She never had bruises on her face, but they were always on her arm and she lost an incredible amount of weight in a very short period of time. We suspected that drugs were involved as well.
I approached her privately once and said "I've noticed (all of the "accidents")and wanted to see if everything was o.k because I was concerned." I didn't say that many of us had discussed the situation. She never admitted anything, but I just felt better knowing I gave her an opening. Bottom line, she has to WANT to do something different for things to be different. Sadly, my coworker didn't and she ended up getting fired after being given numerous chances. Last I heard she had lost her car, gotten kicked out of her apartment and moved back in with her parents (with him in tow).
I don't knwo what you should do, but I wouldn't go to the VP. I also wouldn't cover up for her or try to help her out in extra ways because of her situation. That will only enable her and sometimes folks have to hit rock bottom before they get a wake up call.
Funny thing, your "guy" sounds like the guy of my coworker, except he would come and read cheesy poetry to her with misspelled words.
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