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Originally posted by exlurker
Pinklady, best wishes to you!
FuzzieAlum, about PNMs not stringing chapters along "if they know THEY don't want them" -- sometimes the rush rules make that difficult. Fairly often PNMs are required to attend up to the maximum number of parties they're invited to for each invitational round.
Let's say as an example there are 2 invitational rounds before pref. After the open round and the first invites, the PNM is certain that Chapter X is not where she'd be comfortable. But when invitations come for the second invitational round, she has been cut from enough chapters that she must go to Chapter X's party, along with parties at some other chapters that invited her back. SHE is not deliberately stringing Chapter X along -- she is following the rules so she can remain in recruitment.
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This is true, but it can still be very, very messy. Chapter X won't know what invites this PNM is getting, and won't know whether she keeps coming back because she wants to, or because she has to. If a chapter believes the former and they're wrong, then they could be very hurt in the end.
Case in point: my rush freshman year. There was a house on my campus that wasn't very popular, and several PNM's would act DELIBERATELY impolite at that house in an attempt to get cut by them. I thought that was totally not classy, and I was always very friendly and polite at this house, even though it was probably my last choice. Well, I never was in a position to cut them, and I went to pref. Needless to say, there were some pissed off people at that house when I ended up somewhere else -- they thought i was very interested in joining.
Personally, I think that PNM's should be required to go to all their invites -- up until Pref. If pref night comes around and a PNM really isn't interested in a house, they should be allowed to cut it regardless of how many invites they have. It would save both sides a lot of stress and disappointment.