It's all about priorities. Being in a sorority takes a lot of time, not only with regular chapter meetings but also with meetings for any committees you join. It's hard enough being in college. Add a sorority OR a job and it's a little harder. A BAD woman is one who can take on all three, especially in her freshamn year.
I wouldn't say any sorority should come "first" per se, after all, you're in college to get an education. BUT, in a way, I see her point. You know the sorority has meeting before you joined and you should know you're expected to participate. Attending the pledge meetings are VERY IMPORTANT, these were probably the meetings she was referring to. Once you join, you KNOW when the meetings are and if you want to be involved, to get you money's worth as it were, it would behoove you to attend the meetings.
In all honesty, you could have planned for this a little better. It sounds like you just started working this summer. By working when you first had the inkling that you may want to join a sorority, you could have saved up for pledge fees and miscellaneous expenses so you wouldn't have to work so hard/often once you become a member.
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Kelli
Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc.
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Delta Nu-94
MAL, Southern Region
Savannah State University c/o 1997