for pref night- we turn all the lights off- and get tons of tea lights- and put them all over- outside on the steps- up all the stairways- in the hallways- and we carry long taper dinner candles (careful- the wax gets alll over) and we present them to the group-one by one- with a sister as an escort to the rest of the sorority= i present to you- miss blah blha blah- and they get a rose (our flower) and sit down- we go over our info- stone- date we formed- and then have them make a wish in our wish bowl- cheesy but cute- and we read a poem to them its called how do you want to live your dash or somthing like that- and then we turn the lights on- before they come downstairs- we keep them in one of the rooms and have them fill out their information- and then their escort leads them downstairs and the PNM encounters two people that tell why the decided to join- its really beautiful and nice to do- hope that helps at all
i can tell you this- b/c the girls during informal/formal rush go through all the sororities pref nights- so its not so secret until they sign a bid- and then- we go and hand them their bids with flowers at their rooms