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Originally posted by Lovely:
It's very nice that you are able to discount all that the prospective adoptive parent paid out not to mention the emotional roller coaster you put her on, because "he's a blessing from God". I am not saying you should have given the baby up if you truly felt it was wrong. However, you should at least reimburse them for the amount of money they spent on you- I'm sure your God doesn't advise you to just ignore all your responsibilities. Try for one unselfish minute to put yourself in their shoes -"if you are capable".
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Does the adoptive mother pay the money to the birth mother? If not, it's not her place to reimburse anybody. This is what I'm talkin' about! The situation is a mess. Why would you pay money for something you don't know if you'll even get? Do they tell these people that the birth mother has the right to change her mind, and that their money could be lost? And why does the money go to the birth mother's rent and all that??? Who would pay her rent if she was keeping the child?
That's just ridiculous, for real. It doesn't make any sense to me, at all. The adoptive parents should NOT have to pay for counseling for the birth mother. This is a decision that SHE made, so SHE should foot the bill. That is clearly some mess. I wouldn't want to pay for that. I would like to adopt a child one day, but clearly, not for d*mn near $50k, and I'm not paying for someone else's counseling, neither. Hmph.