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In the middle of my freshman year, I broke up with my high school sweetheart who I had been dating for a year and 1/2. He was my first everything.
Since he basically knew everything about him and he was always the one I went to whenever I was having a problem, I didn't want to let that go but I also wanted to move on. So, we would talk on the phone once a week. We had a class together and we'd still sit next to each other during it. I still went to his place once a week to do laundry (I was in the dorms and he was in an apartment...it was very convenient). And, we were honest with each other when we met someone else. To this day (3 1/2 years later), we are still friends. We talk occasionally and hang out whenever he's in town...he has since moved out of Orlando. I've met his girlfriend and he's met my boyfriend. It is possible to stay friends after a break up. The important thing is to give each other space while staying in each other's lives. A once a week phone call is appropriate. Meeting up for lunch every month is also appropriate.
Of course, we had a mutual break up. Both of us loved each other but were no longer in love with one another. It's easier to stay friends when no one is hurt in the relationship.
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