Just to let you all know...
We did an actual Mother Pinning ceremony last year.
It was very nice and simple, gave her a rose and yada yada
...but to answer your questions, the pin itself is a little bit bigger than the pi alpha pin, but still smaller than our badge. There are no marks on the rim or anything, it is a gold trim all the way around. And if I remember correctly, you can only get it in gold, not white gold, but in the GK, 10k, and so on. Knowing my mother may only wear it once or twice a year, I saved my money and got her the gold klad one.
....and she is more than welcome to wear it if she is in another sorority.
Any other questions, send them my way!
- Colleen
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