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I have to agree with Ginger, if a girl isn't working out, you as memebers of the sorority she's trying to join, should be able to change your mind about letting her in. My sorority thankfully, has this option. If the girl pledging has the right to discontinue her process, than we feel its our right as well to discontinue her from it. Its like when you work for a certain company. Most places have an "at-will" clause saying that you have the right to terminate yourself without any reason, just like the company.
Of course in the situation of de-pledging someone, you would have a reason, and you would let that girl know.
We've had simlar situations where a girl or two come out for us and just show that rah-rah personality that everyone is looking for, than down the line into the pledging process, they start to show there true colors....they don't want to do com. service, or study hours, or they are more intrested in frat guys then the reason being in a sorority...this gives us the chance to see what type of members they will be once they become a sister. We've gotten rid of some girls before they could cause chaos in the sorority...I know because after saying good-bye to them, they went and pledged another sorority, and I've heard the stories of how hard these girls are to handled from the sisiters in that org.
I think if your sorority/chapter doesn't allow you to do this, than maybe this is something you should look into...that is if you are able to change that rule.
pledging should be a period where everyone gets to feel out each other....if the girl thinks she belongs regardless of her actions, than the org is made to suffer because you can't let her go unless she does something outrageous...of course by then, its too late.. her damage is done to your sorority and others might also know about it.
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