[aephi alum]

I agree... to a point.

It's perfectly all right, IMO, to get anxious when a PNM's bid day arrives and we don't hear from her. Is she off partying with her new sisters, or crying in her room? Or is she just unable to post because her computer is hosed with the virus of the week?

But when we don't hear from a PNM for a few days after bid day, it's usually safe to assume things didn't work out for whatever reason, and she doesn't want to talk about it. At that point, it's best to just let things go - rather than scouring the lists of new members and the no-bid list looking for someone who might be the PNM.

We have to keep in mind that - although we get vicarious thrills from reading other PNMs' rush stories - the rush threads are really for the PNMs. It's up to them whether they want to name names, share how they ranked the sororities, or even post at all. I thank each and every PNM who has chosen to share her story, and I respect those PNMs who have chosen not to.