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Originally posted by 33girl
That's why there is a pledge period.
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See, but this is what frustrates me.
Say a really sweet girl comes thru Recruitment. She's awesome all week, everyone really likes her, and all are happy when she's at the house on Bid Day. Yay for New Member Suzy! We all love her. But as Suzy gets more and more comfortable around the sisters, more of her true colors come out - and you realize that she isn't the person she portrayed during Recruitment, and she isn't really someone you want in your house. Maybe she's rude, maybe she's tacky, maybe she doesn't seem to be there for the right reasons...
But basically, you're stuck with her - there's no way, at least not in my organization, to get rid of a New Member after you've given her a bid - if you give her a bid after just meeting her BARELY during Recruitment, she can become a member of your organization - a lifelong sister.
It's like the New Member period gives them a chance to find out more about the organization, and the active sisters - and they can choose to stay or drop - but the active members never get another chance to decide if we want to keep or drop the new members!
I'm sorry to hijack this thread, it's just something that's been on my mind. I'm not saying that this girl deserves to be dropped - it just seems like there's such a limited number of choices that sororities have after giving that young woman a bid. Of course, the first steps should be to talk to the new member, use general group discussions then one-on-one, but after that - ultimately you can be stuck with someone who just isn't right for you!
Any thoughts?