|
God, some of you are cynical . . .
Anyway, maybe the kid's just confused, or worried about getting hurt again - it sounds like he's been ripped up a little bit in the past, and emotional scarring tends to become an aegis that prevents 'taking chances.'
He's definitely interested in you - look at the time frame that this has occured over, if nothing else. You're not the problem - he is, or more specifically, his memories and associations with past events. I understand how some here are worried about you getting hurt, or getting played out - but that's all that is concerning him, I guarantee.
If you really want to do this, it's going to have to either come in baby steps, or completely overwhelm him. It sounds like the baby steps are working so far, so you need to think long and hard about what you want out of this deal, then you can decide a course of action.
Confronting him, and thus making him show his hand, might not be the best way to get in with someone who is being protective of his feelings.
I think, in a lot of ways, what's being ignored here is that, apparently, this guy's been through the crap and back. Just as you don't want to get hurt, neither does he, and keep that in mind - he's not being a dick about all of this, at least if what you say about hooking up w/ other girls and etc is true, he's just trying to cover his bases.
Just like you are.
I'd say talk about it, but not in the way you're probably thinking - just bring a movie over to his place, start watching it, and when the 'cuddling' or whatever starts, start to talk about how much you enjoy this, and etc. See where it goes from there - chances are, you wind up talking about how you both want to do it more, then you make out, and the deal is, shall we say, sealed.
Of course . . . all we can see is what you show us, so this might also be completely off-base - but it's probably worth a shot.
|