I actually agree with some of what Tom Earp said.

First of all, I believe we all agree that no 16-year-old, whether the person is male or female, should be at a college/university party of any kind, fraternity or not. I also believe what some others were saying that the minute she said no, that meant for him to stop. Also, someone should have been more responsible and pulled her away from the situation before anything happened. We all know 16-year-olds go in packs whereever they go so I can bet money that at least one of her high school friends was there at that party with her. Even at that, a college female should have known to pull her away from the situation.

Secondly, rape is never the victim's fault, EVER. Even if the girl walked in naked (which is extreme, I know), she did not deserve to be raped nor did she ask for it. Even if a girl walks in with a short skirt and a low neck shirt, she didn't contribute to the problem by wearing that type of clothing. This guy should be punished for the rape, not the whole fraternity. On the other hand, the fraternity needs to rethink their "security" issues when it comes to minors. They just need better checks of who's coming in and out.

Thirdly, parents need to be more responsible with their children (and yes, a 16-year-old is still a child). They can't be willy-nilly with where they let their kids go. Parents need to keep in touch with other kids parents. Call the parents of the person your child says they're going to be with. That way you know if anything is on the down-low. You HAVE to keep your kids safe. That is your #1 priority as parents. Your job and social activities are bleak in comparison to the responsibility you bear as a parent. 9 times out of 10 you choose to be a parent so you need to be able to take care of that child! That means checking and rechecking with your child and their friends.

No I am not a parent but I know that children are a major undertaking and you have to be extremely responsible when having children. They will be with you 24/7 for 18 years of your and their life and you have to be there. You have to give 110% effort all of the time, even when you don't think you can or you don't want to.

OK that's my two cents on the situation!